What is this sorrow about? 
When we actually talk to people who just lost their families in accidents, we get to know the essence of the pain that they feel. Those who hear about their spouse’s accidents usually have a severe psychological shock. At first, they cannot accept the fact and when they eventually realize the fact that their spouses are dead, they fall into an intolerable sorrow. However, what is this sorrow about? We might think that we feel sorrowful about the death of our loved ones, but in fact, we feel sorrowful about ourselves, who are feeling
pain of loss.