When we actually talk to people who just lost their families in accidents, we get to know the essence of the pain that they feel. Those who hear about their spouse’s accidents usually have a severe psychological shock. At first, they cannot accept the fact and when they eventually realize the fact that their spouses are dead, they fall into an intolerable sorrow. However, what is this sorrow about? We might think that we feel sorrowful about the death of our loved ones, but in fact, we feel sorrowful about ourselves, who are feeling
pain of loss.
We can die for love but cannot allow our spouses to drink until late at night and come home late, and we cannot stand that our spouses do not clean but goof around on the weekend. We cannot accept the fact that our birthdays are not remembered, and husbands do not make enough money.
“I can die for her.” That means that he would do anything for her, but on the contrary, he was oppressing her basic freedom that she deserved. In his self-contradictory behaviors, we can see what the essence of love is. We can die for love but cannot even understand trivial things about our loved ones.
Compared to throwing his life, it would be considered very minor to allow her to do what she wanted to do. However, he had no intention to set her free. I could have guessed why he was absolutely against her dancing salsa. Probably, he was worried about other men flirting with her. However, he did not say he could even die for her because he loved her so much?
Though he said that he could die for love, he restricted her so tightly. She was not in danger or trying to do something bad. She just had small wishes, such as learning Salsa dancing or joining a social club for wine. However, he ignored her free will.
“I can die for her. I am nothing if it were not for her….” My friend said it with a serious face. His face showed some kind of truth that a man who would die for love would have. However, ironically, the friend was quite often angry with her. Does he really love her?